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    What can you comment for those who are in the hiding? Those people who are called closet gays?
    Do you consider them as coward or pretentious?

  • #2
    We could not blame them. There are places where gays are not accepted and they have no choice but to keep in the hide. Or they may have some other reasons why coming out is not an option for them.

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    • Boosh
      Boosh commented
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      It is a bit good thing that while it is not that accepted here, at least, I was not born in a country where homosexuality is a crime and punishable.

    • ThaDude
      ThaDude commented
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      Originally posted by ButtThrust View Post
      There are places where gays are not accepted and they have no choice but to keep in the hide.
      Considering that these gays are NOT pretentious and/or cowards in situations like this. It's hard to walk in their shoes because they struggle to live like they're just regular people but with the rational fear of hatred and any forms of abuse that are bound to happen any time soon if they get caught.

  • #3
    A. They are NOT coward, and B. They are NOT pretentious as well, closeted gays exist because of judgmental people who can't stick their nose on their own shit. I was once closeted when I was young and it took me months when I convinced myself to finally come out of my shell. It was fine for me but to some, I was mocked, and I get to see who truly loves and accepts me. I'm not a coward or a pretentious kid after all.

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    • Proxie
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      Such a powerful response on this one Cube. I came out to my parents back then and it turned out fine. Some of my friends were closeted at first but it doesn't make you weak, it takes time.

    • CutieShank
      CutieShank commented
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      People have varied thoughts. It so happen that you are just stronger than the rest. Even then, it took you months before coming out. That made you still a little coward. Anyway, since you are already out, why don't you upload your photo?

    • JayKay
      JayKay commented
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      Then you were not closeted at all. You were at the transition stage, so to speak. When you say closeted, these are the gays who know themselves as gay and yet never had the will to tell to the world that they are gay.

  • #4
    What makes them coward? Simple, it's the fear of discrimination, harassment, and other abuses that would lead to being pretentious. As to pretending that you are straight when you're actually gay. What I hate about it is that we are in denial of ourselves and feel left out. We must keep in mind that we are not alone, and that someone out there could help us feel more comfortable of ourselves.

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    • Cyrax
      Cyrax commented
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      Honestly, it's sometimes hard to reach out to others if they wanted to isolate themselves. But all in all, it takes a lot of patience and understanding, saving lives could be draining and sometimes you wouldn't even notice that you need a little saving too.

    • Stanlee
      Stanlee commented
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      There are many gay men who are in this situation in countries where homosexuality is illegal. Just imagine all the hardships of emotions for their repressed true feelings.

  • #5
    I could call them as pretentious. Why pretend for something which you are not? Why claim to be a man when you are really gay? Why not just say to the world that you are gay? Be gay and be proud of it.

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    • MannaMontana
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      So it hasn't crossed your mind that they might end up being shunned or have their life completely ruined by coming out of the closet?

    • Cloud69
      Cloud69 commented
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      LumberJacked Well, I got your point. I know that there are some countries where you could not come. That your life would be at risk if you do. But, actually, I am not referring about them. I am talking about the people who are living in the free world.

    • Cloud69
      Cloud69 commented
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      MannaMontana Of course, I have thought of that. It is just that they are living in a fake world when they do not come out in the open. I had read about this married man so had been thinking of men since he was 9 years old. A married man who never came out. Well, that was a torture on his self.

  • #6
    Neither. Since you're not going to be of any help for that person if you call him names

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    • Scorpio
      Scorpio commented
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      I understand your point not to call names but what can you say about them, then?

    • DurtyDirke
      DurtyDirke commented
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      Scorpio I think that he has no plans of using names on that person

  • #7
    They may be closeted but they also do some hidden activities. Guess what those hidden activities are?

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    • MickeyDee
      MickeyDee commented
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      Not sure what you mean by doing some hidden activities? I think that everybody (straight, gay, closeted, etc...) do things that they rather keep in private

  • #8
    All I can say to them is that you're not the only one who's still in the closet and you can come out when you think it is the right time for you

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    • TylerBurden
      TylerBurden commented
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      Are you going to help him come out if he feels like that right time would not come
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